Week 20 · Lesson 1

The Work

Eight questions. What you write is read by your facilitator and nobody else. Not your officer, not your school, not your family, and not in any report. Three of these you do not write down at all.

Week 20 of 23 · Family Engagement

1Answer this one in your head

Nobody reads this one. What are you still waiting for from somebody in your family?

2Written

What does your life look like if it never comes? Write it honestly, not bitter, just honestly.

3Multiple choice

Can you hold somebody responsible and understand them at the same time?

  • A No, you have to pick one.
  • B Yes, and most people think they have to pick, which is why they stay stuck.
  • C Only if they apologize.
  • D Only for small things.
4Written

What do you know about what happened to the parent you understand least, when they were your age? If you do not know, write who you could ask.

5Written

One thing you are going to do differently than your family does it. Write what it will cost the first time it comes up.

6Answer this one in your head

Nobody reads this one. Who is the call you have not made, and what are you actually waiting for?

7Scripture · multiple choice

Joseph told his brothers you meant it for evil, but God meant it for good. What is he doing in that sentence?

  • A Saying it was not that bad.
  • B Naming exactly what they did, refusing to pretend, and still being the one who feeds them.
  • C Getting back at them quietly.
  • D Saying God made them do it.
8Scripture · answer in your head

Nobody reads this one. If you had all the power in the room with the person who hurt you most, what would you actually do?

Nothing you write here goes to your officer, your school or your family.

Defining Narratives · Week 20 Written work