Week 11 · Lesson 1
The Work
Eight questions. What you write is read by your facilitator and nobody else. Not your officer, not your school, not your family, and not in any report. Three of these you do not write down at all.
Week 11 of 23 · Sexual Responsibility
Who taught you what to expect from a woman and what to give? Write who, what they taught, and whether it has worked out for them.
If you catch yourself thinking she probably wanted to, what does that mean?
- A It means it is fine, you read the situation.
- B It is the warning. A real yes does not need you to interpret it.
- C It depends on whether she said anything.
- D Nothing, everybody thinks that.
Write everything you would want for your daughter, if you have one or ever do. All of it. Then write which of those things you have been to somebody.
What does treating people like they are interchangeable actually train in you?
- A Confidence.
- B Not feeling anything, and that training does not stay in one part of your life.
- C Nothing, it is separate from everything else.
- D Better judgment about people.
Nobody reads this one. Is there a situation where you know you were not straight with somebody about what you wanted?
Nobody reads this one either. If there is a child in your life right now, what is that child learning from the rhythm of who shows up?
They dragged one person into the circle when it takes two to be caught. What does that detail expose?
- A Nothing, that is just how the story goes.
- B That every man there knew the other one was missing, and not one of them said anything.
- C That the man got away before they arrived.
- D That the law only applied to women.
He said I do not condemn you, and then said go and leave that life. Both, to the same person. Write which of those two sentences you have a harder time believing is meant for you, and why.
Nothing you write here goes to your officer, your school or your family.
Defining Narratives · Week 11 Written work